Annoyed...

Okay. Someone please tell me why people find the need to give someone a useless piece of information that will neither help them, or change the situation they find themselves in, but will only hurt them? Saturday, a good friend of my mother had the audacity to tell her that two weeks before my dad died, he called her sobbing on the phone. He couldn't talk or anything, he just sobbed. And he didn't want to wake anyone in the house up, foremost my sister, to gain comfort from us because he probably felt bad enough for all the stress and pain that we were currently experiencing regarding his condition.

My feeling is that this information has no good use, and certainly not to the people who were closest to my father, and still trying to deal with the grief caused by his death. My mother most certainly does not need to mull over why he didn't call her down to comfort him, why he felt the need to seek comfort from another female friend instead of her. My sister certainly doesn't need that guilt, not after how much time and energy she put into caring for him. And even though I am much better with handling this kind of information, I certainly do not need it either. We were all well aware of the pain and depression he must've felt at knowing the end was coming without being in control to stop it. Obviously we didn't know exactly how he felt, but we could imagine, considering we were facing the same sort of end of something even if we'd still be around to feel it. I still cry at night thinking about how hopeless his whole situation was...and how sad that someone like him was taken at a time when he would truly start to enjoy his life.

But in all honesty, why do people feel the need to share information like that? Not long after my dad died, someone else did something similar, in telling my sister that my Dad had had the tumor for several months before saying anything to any of us and having it checked out. Now, again, what purpose does this information serve, but to hurt the person and make them mull over what cannot be changed? The outcome of what happened to my Dad is no different with this information. Please, keep it to yourself people. Focus on giving my family love and support to help them keep moving forward and help them learn to deal with my father's death. That is what they need more than anything. Not useless, hurtful information that will only stagnate the whole process. Please and thank you.